Consider how long you look into someone's eyes when you speak. Most people can only look into someone's eyes for at most three seconds before either person glances away. This is because eye contact expresses intimacy, and as a direct glance becomes longer, the feelings become more intense. So, for a professional speech, only look directly into someone's eyes for about a second. A longer glance might make someone uncomfortable or could be construed as inappropriate flirting.
Matthew Arnold Stern
There are a few things that are dead giveaways to a woman that you're a big-time wuss and not worth her time.
Can't maintain eye contact
Have slumped, submissive posture
Give away your power
Look for attention and approval from others
When the person is a stranger, look at them, make eye contact, smile and look away. Look back again, smile, and hold their gaze for a bit longer than the first time. They should come right over! If they are too shy, just say hello, and introduce yourself. Don't start out with "what do you do?" or any other cliches. Even compliment someone on something specific, and make it genuine!
First, as usual you make eye contact, and if she responds favorably, you don't wait. You have to make your move quickly.You look at her again as if you know her from somewhere but can't put your finger on it. Then you walk over and ask "Did you go to BlahBlah High School by any chance?"
I was at work one day working out after my break and was practicing my eye contact thing between sets with this really hot girl near the dumbbell rack.I knew she noticed but it never bothered me cause I had no intentions of acting. Well, I had to go over to get a set of dumbbells for my next exercise and as I got close to where she was she suddenly turned around and said "I have a boyfriend" and turned around. Normally I would have kinda stood there in shock and said nothing but, I guess all that mental practice paid off. With out even thinking or pausing the words just came out. I said "Hey that's great I am happy for you. (Pause - and in a lower tone) I know this is probably a major accomplishment for you but to the rest a the world this is kinda normal so you might not want to go telling every stranger you see." Then I just walked off with my weights to do my sets. 5 min later she comes over to me and apologizes and asks for my number. Turns out she didn't have a boyfriend but was just tired of being picked up by losers while she was trying to do a workout.
You will know it is your turn to speak when they look steadily at you. A quick glance need only be to check that you are still listening. A steady gaze indicates that a reply is now expected.
The Relaxed Therapist
Usually, one person , let's say in a bar, sees someone they like and will check them out. Eye contact is made for the briefest instant and is followed by looking away. Glances will be made in either direction until eventually, if the feeling in both parties is mutual, the gaze will be held longer and this is then followed by a courtesy smile. Now, at this stage, approval being made via eye contact, it is time to do something about it. But in most cases, nothing happens. Why? Because the fear factor sets in and the man (usually the man) is put off by making a proper approach because she is in a group. A confident man will return the gaze and then move in.
Never use your own eye contact in attempt to get women to hold eye contact with you. She should be trying to get eye contact with you more than you are with her. To do this effectively, it shouldn't be something that you focus on too much. Remember, this is flirting, and it should be fun.
Smile and look people in the eye. Good eye contact is crucial for effective nonverbal communication. It lets the person know you are interested in what he or she has to say. Without that eye contact, it will be difficult, if not impossible, to connect with others. Think about the times when people don't acknowledge you. How does it make you feel? Boothman
Make Across the Room Eye Contact
Do your best not to seem creepy - this means using a moderate smile with your mouth closed. If you have not met or don't know the great woman you are after, it's best not to stare. This means once eye contact is made, don't keep your gaze on her. A good rule is no more than 1.5 to 2 seconds. After that, look down and turn away.
Lock eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six seconds, then smile and drop your gaze. Don't stare a hole through the guy's forehead for goodness sake, just give him a smoldering come-hither look and look away. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period. Why? Your target needs to know it's them you're flirting with, and eye contact is a universal signal of openness.
Take the time to look into your partner’s eyes
Again, this may seem a very simple thing, but it is amazing how quickly a relationship can change from passionate to passive. Gazing in each other’s eyes can stimulate the senses and create romance. Make sure that you use plenty of eye contact in your day-to-day interactions as well. You will be amazed at how much you can say to each other with your eyes.
Along with eye contact you also want to use other body language and clues as a guide. For example, when a woman looks at you then directly away, she's probably just scanning the landscape with you in it. On the other hand, when she looks at you, then down and away, that's a very good sign, regardless of the length of the contact. Another eye contact clue is when she looks at you out of the corner of her eye. For example, she's sitting, talking with a girlfriend, but looks at you (more than once) without shifting her head.